Over the last several months, a slew of contentious news stories have saturated the media. Many of these issues have been central to Christian culture, and for better or worse, they have all trickled down into the dialogue of social media. In a matter of weeks, the news cycle brought us the the Supreme Court Ruling on gay marriage, the Planned Parenthood videos, countless stories of racial discord in America, the Kim Davis case, the current refugee crisis, and of course, the upcoming presidential campaign. Just to name a few.
While open dialogue is a good thing, it seems the common courtesy and manners we would grant one another over a cup of coffee are woefully absent in postings on social media. Sadly, this seems especially common with heated issues that pertain to Christian culture.
On several occasions I have stared at the screen in disbelief over the rude, crude, and mean spirited dialogue that we call “conversation” on social media. I believe all Americans should engage in social issues and I love a spirited debate, but I’m left to wonder when it became acceptable to publically insult someone who is a “friend?” Have we forgotten there are flesh and blood people on the receiving end of these remarks? Do we think vitriolic comments will influence people who disagree with us?
Scripture has plenty to say about how we are to speak to one another. Before you post about a heated issue consider asking yourself 3 things:
- Is what I am saying gracious? “Let your speech always be gracious, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how you ought to answer each person. (Colossians 4:6).
- Is what I am saying helpful? “Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building up others according to their needs, that is may benefit those who listen.” (Ephesians 4:29 NIV).
- Is what I am saying necessary? “When words are many, transgression is not lacking, but whoever restraints his lips is prudent.” (Proverbs 10:19).
From a secular perspective gracious and helpful words are considered good manners. As Christ followers, they are a biblical imperative. Let’s be good to one another.
